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A Word From Deborah

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Just like many church girls, I (Deborah Idowu-Asufi) had my dreams about happily ever after…and I understand the expectations of friends, family about my marriage but moreso my own expectations were not being fulfilled and it was low-key worrying and challenging. I understand the fears, pains, dreams, and hopes of the unmarried Christian lady. I’ve been there and I’ve done that…I also have walked with many unmarried ladies now married and I resonate with their hopes, dreams, aspirations, and joys.

So I would be honored if you would let me hold your hand and let’s walk this journey to wholeness together. Isolation is the thief of fulfillment. God did not intend that we journey through life alone. Join this community of intentional women to walk into wholeness and live your best life.

Many married women wish they had this opportunity to make an informed choice…and if they knew half of what this course offers. So if you actually follow the teachings and all the course entails, you will have your evidence.

Looking forward to seeing you on the other side. What are you still waiting for?

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Become an intentional lady that prepares herself for a Kingdom Marriage

Right now you can enroll for this course at $150 before September 15th, after which the price goes up to $200 after September 15th (Live Class begins September 30th)

This Course Is For You If:

  • You are an unmarried Christian lady and you deeply desire to have a kingdom marriage but do not know how to go about being a kingdom lady or even how to attract the right kingdom man(People say Good men have finish..that’s NOT true
  • You want a better marriage than your parents had or you want a marriage better than what you saw growing up or you even want a marriage better than the marriages around you.
  • You experienced trauma or any form of abuse and emotional wounds in any season of your life: childhood or adulthood or you experienced abuse in your past relationships and you desire to heal from it. According to statistics people that get into marriage with unhealed emotional wounds or abuse of any kind and unhealed traumas end up in divorce or frustrate themselves and their partners in the marriage
  • You noticed a negative family pattern of untimely death, divorce, broken marriage, women assuming the role of the man in the marriage etc and you don’t want that to happen in your own marriage.
  • You experience marital disappointment and marital delay even though you are beautiful, smart, intellingent, caring etc
  • Wrong men are mostly the people drawn to you.
  • You want to know how to be rightly positioned right to meet the husband of your dreams
  • You know a godly home is possible and you want to know how to build one.
  • You want to be a wholesome woman that knows her purpose and is walking in it.

Then this Course is for you! Ladies in Waiting is a Course specifically designed to transform your life and make your unmarried years super fulfilling, rather than just waiting for a husband to come

Reviews from Past Students

LIFE AFTER LADIES IN WAITING COURSE

Here's the plan

1 Self Discovery; you become a wholesome and elegant woman living her best life, thoroughly refined and transformed, managing lie’s pressure and making informed decision on marriage from a place of self-discovery

A Testimonial from a client ONLY halfway through the Course:

"I know that as a result of the abuse and molestation at some point I hated men, I also felt like I can’t get anything from a man without offering my body, but since the course of this class a lot has changed, I fell different, it might not be but atleast I’m making progress. I forgive men, I now talk to men like they’re human beings and when I ask for a Favour I don’t see the need to want to give something in return and that’s because it’s normal for people to help you without asking for anything In return. The only anomaly here is a man helping me and me wanting to offer my body for it."

2 Move from emotionally broken and wounded to emotionally healed and confident

 

Then you invited me to ladies in waiting, I’m not even going to lie to you I felt anxiety about this course, my guess is the enemy didn’t want me to attend , because I thought oh you wanna break me and bring a part of me I do not want to touch, I don’t trust people especially with people knowing me in depth, nah I don’t like it. All the more reason the invitation to join was giving me anxiety until the Holy Spirit said “ just join, you might not know how much you need this class” and if I’m being honest with you mama, ladies in waiting is that slice of haven that I didn’t know I needed,

More Testimonials

Good people. Good words.

it’s been years of building a wall that nobody can penetrate. After I joined ladies in waiting, our sessions together and from reading those books, I noticed that as a result of the abuse and molestation I went through in the hands of men who were supposed to keep me safe, it had serious effect of my personality, and character.​
It’s sooo much more, I have had to peal a lot of layers on my life that have been tucked somewhere far far away and confront my raw self which has been painful but blessings all at the same time.
This Course will help you know and identify red flags when you see them and not call them white flags (LOL)

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  • You will find a community of like minds(other kingdom ladies and me your Coach) that will hold your hands as you journey through life and heal from past wounds. Iron sharpens Iron. So you will be sharpened, challenged etc to know you and be you.
I have been soooo blessed reading the books assigned for Ladies in waiting so much so wooo. Every chapter you get some nuggets and inspiration and insights and directions and guidance! So far I can say all the books have been great reads, I feel like this journey has been part of me investing in self-care. God really knew I needed this and has dropped so much love and wisdom and unction all at the same time so I thank God. To God be the glory and thank you for allowing God to use you to lead us. This has been one of my greatest investments and I am so honored and happy I know God is doing so many mental shifts from my perspective to His.

4 Free from powers/curses holding your marriage from manifesting and actually getting married

5 Be mentally, spiritually, financially ready to begin a kingdom marriage

The prayers of breaking free from emotions that came out from those years of abuse also helped me, I forgive myself for sleeping with people who I wasn’t supposed to sleep with because I was a needy human being. I tried to use humans as a need to fill up for void, apparently it didn’t work out , only Jesus worked and is still working.

So Enroll now for only $150, the price goes up after Sept 15th, 2023 to $200

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What’s included in Ladies in Waiting Course?

12 Transformational Weeks of group coaching​

11 Modules of teachings and strategy sessions

Two 60-minute group call (recording/replay available)​

A 24/7-course community for interaction and reinforced learning

Uncommon, Strategic, targeted and breakthrough prayer sessions that deal with delays, obstacles, hindrances, oppositions

Bonus #1

Bonus #2

50 Questions to ask during Courtship

When in courtship some essential questions are not asked either because they are unknown, have forgotten due to the honeymoon phase of the love and red flags ignored; these questions help you keep gives you focus and perspective
I have been soooo blessed reading the books assigned for Ladies in waiting so much so wooow! Every chapter you get some nuggets and inspiration and insights and directions and guidance! So far I can say all the books have been great read, I feel like this journey has been part of me investing in self care. God really knew I needed this and has dropped so much love and wisdom and unction all at the same time so I thank God. To God be the glory and thank you for allowing God to use you to lead us. This has been one of my greatest investments and I am so honored and happy and I know God is doing so much mental shifts from my perspectives to His. Obi

Resources to help transform your mind

Resources that you will definitely revamp and transform your mind…causing you to learn, unlearn and relearn as you transform into a wholesome woman positioned to meet her husband.
It’s sooo much more, I have had to peal a lot of layers on my life that have been tucked somewhere far far away and confront my raw self which has been painful but blessings all at the same time.Lynn

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What We Cover in 12 Weeks;

Here's the plan

Module 1

Trauma, emotional wounds and abuse

Trauma, emotional wounds and abuse and your emotional responses to events in your life. Some ladies do not even acknowledge they are dealing with emotional baggage…because they are not self-aware. Testimonial from a past client;
First of all, I thank you for the gift of you, for reaching out to me and telling me there’s more to me. I’ve always been that girl that laughs and smiles on the outside but on the inside I’m dying with hurt and a lot of baggage’s; but you saw through me. It’s like asking someone how are you and they give a cliche answer “fine.”. and everyone moves on.

Module 2

Processing wounds from your past

Processing wounds from your past; how have you handled this? And what is the best way to handle these? 

Another testimonial;
You still didn’t settle for it, we got talking and you asked me about my childhood, sincerely this is a part of me that no ones has ever asked about, I’m glad I opened up to you concerning the molestation and abuse, even if I initially didn’t want to. You didn’t force me to talk, you made me feel safe like “ oh you can trust me girl, I’m here for you”, for the first time in twenty two (22) years after seeing abuse and molestation as normal I got to talk to someone about it , thank you sister Debbie.

Another testimonial;
May God bless you ma’am , I know healing is a process and this is my journey of becoming. I’ll be patient with myself , and allow Jehovah carry me through out this season.

Module 3

Have you looked at your Foundation?

Have you looked at your Foundation? Do you even know you have one? We explore this in depth
Testimonial;
Sis Deb
I have been blessed and overwhelmed all at the same time. Mystery of so many things. God bless.

Module 4

Focus on dealing with evil programming from family patterns

Here we focus on dealing with evil programming from family patterns
Testimonial;
I was really blessed on Friday/ Saturday prayers, I was vomiting Sis Deb!! (this is alone in her room! While she joined the call on zoom; distance is not a barrier If you key in)

Module 5

Focus on how to break free from evil foundations

Here we focus on how to break free from evil foundations. Some ladies are still casualties and they do not know why. Beautiful, intelligent, smart but experiencing failed relationships, strange dreams and encounters even aft

Testimonial;

I could not understand why after spending 3 hours in prayers I could be attacked by someone feeding me a drink or food. Now I am coming to discovering that is the way of the enemy (devil and demons) trying to weaken me spiritual life because I am a threat to their kingdom.

Module 6

Finding you, Self Discovery…

Finding you, Self Discovery…

Testimonial; 

it’s been years of building a wall that nobody can penetrate. After I joined ladies in waiting, our sessions together and from reading those books, I noticed that as a result of the abuse and molestation I went through in the hands of men who were supposed to keep me safe, it had serious effect of my personality, and character. 

 

Module 7

Valuing the authentic you

Valuing the authentic you; Developing soft skills and executive skills

Testimonial;

I became a bitter, angry and insecure woman, but reading these books I felt a little bit relieved, I remember reading one of the books the first week, and crying and saying how this book was breaking me and taking me through memory lane, I cried my eyes out I felt the book was written for me, and you told me my journey of healing has started. 

Module 8

Knowing your Lord and loving Him

Knowing your Lord and loving Him
Testimonial;
I am reminded to be a lady of faith, and not try to get my own husband via logic. Sincerely I used to be like that, until it became exhausting, like you will hear people tell me, you need to going to places, so that people can see you. And by people I mean HUSBAND. So they have a thing that, if you don’t go to places how will husband see you, ma’am I walked from the length and breadth of my city, trying to position myself, maybe husband can see me; not until someone called me said “no be so them dey find the husband o, just walk with God em go bring the man to come find you”. Truly and indeed I was just spending plenty money up and down, in the name of I need to go to crowded places so that husband will see me, that was one of the most exhausting period of my life I had to stop. I could relate to the resources for this module so and I had a good laugh, it had my name written over it. But then I’m reminded that, finding my husband is God’s work I have to have faith and leave the find and divine orchestration to him.

Module 9

We deal in-depth with actually walking with God

We deal in-depth with actually walking with God as a woman. Not church attendance but the real deal
Testimonial;
One thing that hit me as I listened is how everything in life interconnects – Everything really is linked in life. It all seems like building blocks that are linked to every aspect of life and its all under the GOD Framework. This class is what I will describe as too close to home! Which is great, its so relatable in every way.

Module 10

Finding Him

Finding Him..we learn and unlearn strategies here and we also dig up red flags;

Testimonial;

I enjoyed how practical this class was.

 

Another testimonial;

What came out to me was to ensure I have my values, my spiritual values that are none negotiable or I cannot compromise on. I think in the past I have compromised by thinking no one is perfect, overlooked my values because I am attracted to the man or fear that my biological clock is ticking and I cannot be over meticulous. As a results of all these, I have often compromised on my spiritual values which should be none negotiable.

Module 11

Nurturing your relationship to marriage

Nurturing your relationship to marriage. Learn strategies on how to build, what to say and what not to say, how to navigate this pivotal phase that many ladies end up losing out and crying later.

Testimonial;

This module was also very insightful, learning about the different ways women and men process things and react. One thing I realized is that all of these differences/ primary needs of men and women are all complementary to each other.

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Only $150 Normally $200

Reviews from Our Last Class

Thanks so much for teaching us all your wonderful thai recipes! Will definitely cook them at home! It was also great learning about all the things you grow yourself!
Millie
Thank you for such a lovely experience – a thai cooking class in Thailand is just awesome! Thanks for answering all our questions, telling us so much interesting info and helping us to cook authentic thai food!
Alison
Thank you so much to welcoming us into your house. You have succeed to transmitting us your passion of cooking. We are already excited to cook your fabulous plates to our family.
Emilie
Thank you for a marvellous morning – I so enjoyed learning about Thai cooking and food and most of all enjoyed your company. You have such a way about you, I can't describe it but I feel touched by coming here into your family's home.
Louise

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